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Bored off my ass, wish I could blog all day long, but I can't. So I thought I would start another comment war.

Over at Geoffrey's blog, there was discussion again about same-sex marriage, and some "asshat" (thanks, Geoffrey) stated that he wants to keep the word marriage for Heterosexuals because gays have commandeered the word "gay" for ourselves and until I can change the dictionary definition of marriage, it means a union between a man and a woman.

I beg to differ.

It means, literally, to join.

This is what I wrote back:

"Okay, Fish- we are now commandeering words?? Gimme a break. The Heterosexual community coined the term "gay" (happy) for homosexual men along with "fag", which used to mean a cigarette most of the time... we didn't commandeer anything. Those wonderful labels were brought upon us because the hetero world needed a word, and because we chose to embrace the ones of less offense, now we are commandeering the English language.

Now, you'll accuse us of stealing the rainbow, too.

The term marriage means to join. It doesn't necessarily mean one man and one woman. In fact, the word is used in the joining of ideas or thoughts, too.

Here ya go - Definitions of marriage on the Web:

the state of being a married couple voluntarily joined for life (or until divorce); "a long and happy marriage"; "God bless this union" www.cogsci.princeton.edu/cgi-bin/webwn

two people who are married to each other; "his second marriage was happier than the first"; "a married couple without love" www.cogsci.princeton.edu/cgi-bin/webwn

the act of marrying; the nuptial ceremony; "their marriage was conducted in the chapel"
www.cogsci.princeton.edu/cgi-bin/webwn

An ancient practice of taking a life's companion or long term sexual/social partner. (see Marriage.) www.aznewage.com/dictionary%20m-n.htm

A legally recognized and/or socially approved arrangement between two or more individuals that carries certain rights and obligations and usually involves sexual activity.
www.nelson.com/nelson/sociology/sociologyinourtimes2/glossary4.html

a close and intimate union; "the marriage of music and dance"; "a marriage of ideas"
www.cogsci.princeton.edu/cgi-bin/webwn

a King and a Queen of the same suit. See common marriage, royal marriage.
www.pagat.com/marriage/pingloss.html

See, not ALL definitions of marriage are one man and one woman. These are but a few of the many... and the majority do not even mention gender.

And, no, a marriage between two mena nd two women is NOT different than a marriage of one man and one woman. Just as the marriage between two blacks is no different than the marriage between two whites, or mixed races, or cultures, etc. It is still a MARRIAGE. The fundamentals do not change because of gender. They simply don't.

Marriage is not abstract. It is the union of two people. Period. How much more fucking clear can that be? Your statements are fundamentally wrong because they are based on flawed theories and emotion and not on fact. "